Is not liking something about yourself the same thing as not accepting yourself?

I think, honestly, that you were so wrong from being angry with that person. Think about it this way. Everyone things a sparkling diamond is beautiful.. but it takes a lot more to see the beauty of a rock. Your "positive" (socially accepted as being "beautiful") traits are obvious to everyone. Boooring.. a ton of people have beautiful eyes. Just because you're insecure about something, doesn't mean another person can't find cuteness or beauty in it. I used to have the tiniest lisp that I felt kind of insecure about, but one of my guy friends ALWAYS used to point it out to me whenever I was talking and say, "See, there it is! It's so cute." And I'd get mad. But then I realized that if he thinks it's cute, it's cute. That's how he feels. So I started just smiling along with him. He wasn't making fun of me, he just genuinely felt that it made me more adorable, and I appreciated the fact that he saw a "flaw" and turned it around. But you know what, it wasn't a flaw. It was something that made me, me.. one of the many things that made me special. Like Hatchet Face in the movie Crybaby.. she had a very "ugly" and disfigured face.. and the judge said to her, "I'm sorry about your face." And she said.. "There's nothin' wrong with my face. I got character!" And she meant it. And her boyfriend was HOT. Lol. I know it was just a movie, but it still applies. When someone can accept and love your "flaws" as cute things, special things, and you can't, it does mean that you don't accept yourself for it. I don't think that liking and accepting yourself are the same things. You don't HAVE to like everything about yourself. I don't like my nose, for example. I want a small, pointy, dainty nose, but instead I have a rather average nose, a little rounder than I'd like it to be. I don't like it, and I never have. BUT I do accept it. This is my nose. Don't like it? Screw you. Think it's cute? Thanks. You don't have to like your cellulite (which 99% of women have!:o)? It's okay, I know you'd prefer to have those dimples on your face.. But accept them, they're there, and they were meant to be there. They don't make you any less of a.. an anything, actually. They don't change anything about you. They don't affect or change your beauty, your self worth, your life. I don't think you're right in thinking that your boyfriend focused on all the "negatives." He was focusing on you.. on ALL of you. Including the things you chose to ignore as positives. I'm sure he thought you had beautiful eyes, beautiful hair, whatever. But hey, I'm sure a lot of people think that too.. It takes someone special to find beauty in the things that we don't like about ourselves because we feel it's not "beautiful." How can a person be defeated when they allow someone to like the things that they don't like about themselves? That seems almost self destructive. Don't be your own worst critic. Everyone has things they like and don't like about themselves.. It's really about turnings those "negatives" into more neutral or positive subjects. They're THERE. They'll stay that way. And that's OK. There's nothing wrong with it. There's nothing wrong with you. Just let yourself be loved, "faults" and all. And most importantly, love yourself because.. well, because you can either be your own best friend, or your own worst enemy. Life is much easier when you're the former, and not the latter.